I applaud your discernment. I'm sorry you have been hurt by those who would misrepresent Jesus and the Church. I would like to encourage you to find a good church that actually follows Jesus Christ. True believers are not like the people you have described here. I have been a member of the Church of the Nazarene for about 6 years, and my experience has been wonderful. At my church, I have learned what it looks like to love God and to love others.